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The Look of Love?

When we think of places to turn to in our endless quest to find a special someone what comes to mind?

The local health club?

A leading role on a reality television series?

Popular options all.

But according to the Y.Net news,  another avenue on the road to romance is getting quite a bit of traffic these days.

Arab men seek Israeli brides

Dozens of residents of Arab countries appeal to Foreign Ministry in Jerusalem

in search of ‘smart and beautiful’ women

“I’m asking for your help. I would like to meet an Israeli woman for marriage purposes,” Abdullah, a resident of Saudi Arabia, said in a recent letter to the Foreign Ministry in Jerusalem.Dozens of such appeals are received every year by the Foreign Ministry’s department for Arab media. Emails have been arriving from people in Iraq, Yemen, Saudi Arabia and Egypt.

“I have heard that the Israeli women are very smart and beautiful,” he added. “I’m ready to pay a dowry of camels, herds or even money. Please help me.”

It is pretty clear that what we have here is at best a clash of cultures and at worst, as they say, “A failure to communicate.”

C’mon! Who in this new millennium would think that offering a dowry of camels is the way to find the love of your life?

That’s crazy talk.

Or is it?

How much crazier is it to believe you can find love through the Israeli Foreign ministry office, than say, in the studios of ABC television.

Where you propose to a girl you’ve only known for two months in a luxury laden setting that has little to no resemblance to real life.

And then decide to inform said woman that your “heart is leading you elsewhere” in the privacy respecting presence of  say, 15 million viewers?

Personally I’d prefer the camels.

So how can we find the right person?

The Bible has a decidedly different perspective.

God designed our relationships not to float on a gooey sea of ever changing emotions.

In fact, one of the most dangerous catch phrases I keep hearing from those who are searching for romance is “I’ve got to follow my heart.”

Unfortunately the Bible takes a dim view of that philosophy.

heart is more deceitful than all else

And is desperately sick; Who can understand it?” (Jeremiah 17:9)

God tells us that the secret of a successful relationship isn’t a flood of feelings, but a commitment to faithfulness.

First, a faithfulness in our walk with the Lord.

The quality of our relationships on a horizontal level is usually a reflection of the quality of our relationship with God on a heavenly level.

When Jesus was asked what the most important commandment in the entire law of God was he replied:

‘You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the first and great commandment.  And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.” (Matthew 22:37-40)

Notice how the first relationship flows into the second.

When we fail to receive the unconditional love of God, we often will look for that same kind of perfect relationship with others.

There is only one problem with that approach.

Other people are just as flawed and fallen as we are.

And to expect another human being to meet a need only God can supply is a recipe for frustration, manipulation, and eventually devastation in our love lives.

The secret of finding fulfillment in relationships isn’t in the gifts we give, or the feelings we experience.

It isn’t finding the right person.

It’s becoming the right person.

When we allow the Lord to change us into His image from the inside out we find the joy of relating to others not out of a lack, but a fulness in our lives.

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